To the children, the emotional huddles, the atypical outbursts and the squabbling over simple scheduling matters spell out something is amiss and very wrong. Did they do something wrong to get both parents so upset?
If kids can’t keep secrets from their parents, why do parents keep such a big secret from the children? The kids know.
If the parents are planning their transition following their separation or divorce, when do the older children participate in the plans about them?