Why does the word divorce carry so much negativity when one rarely, if at all, experiences it? Do we develop an inkling of an understanding from friends and family who are going through it first hand? Or, are we engaged in watching the media drill into the saucy bits to make the book sell, the advertisers buy space, and the polls reach higher numbers?
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Silver Separations: The Social Stigma Slips Away
A recent cluster of new clients aren’t simply seeking information. They’re designing a new lifestyle, one where their interests dominate. They are choosing to downsize to a hipper part of town away from the suburbs. They are planning shopping trips for expensive items which they have always coveted. These older adults are finally, in their minds, doing it their way.
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Financial Division of Assets & Spousal / Child Support
Today’s family law negotiations are all about the numbers. The value of assets, the amount of support, and the cost of living. The numbers tell who will receive how much, directs us to consider tax considerations, and the timing of the payments.
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The Incredible Power of an Apology
The room went silent. Anxiety slowly built. No, more accurately, it mushroomed to fill all the crevices and corners of the small room.
The client carefully announced that one of their goals to achieve in the collaborative approach was to apologize for an action they had taken some time ago. The apology was ready to be presented.
Making an apology is more than stating an interest or acknowledgment of a value held close. The client had long known that this single action had a pervasive impact on the marriage. Fear and shame had led to panic and an inability to come forward with at least an explanation of what occurred and why. Wanting a future relationship with their children was the driving motive to throw aside feelings of disgrace and apologize for past actions.
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